*Here’s another great article from Dean Cortez*
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By Dean Cortez, creator of the Mack Tactics Dating System
In my best-selling book Mack Tactics, I stress that ORIGINALITY is the most important quality when you want to meet girls — from the way you dress, to how you approach and engage them in conversation.
On the other hand, when you behave in a predictable way and fail to make a unique impression, she’s going to automatically lump you in with the last 37 chumps who tried to talk to her. At a bar, this usually within three minutes of buying her a drink, she excuses herself to “go find her friend.”
(Don’t you hate when women say that? As if her friend is lost in the bar somewhere, in desperate need of food and water…)
Anyway, the key to building a bond with her is to engage her attention and get her to share information about herself. Then you’ll tell her how much you relate, mention some of your own interests/passions/etc., and establish rapport with her.
Mack Tactics has taught thousands of guys how to succeed with women on a new level, and one of my favorite chapters in the book is called “Conversation Control.” In this chapter, I explain a number of extremely effective ways to “turbo charge” your conversations with women, and one of the best techniques is the Cold Read.
This technique was pioneered by psychics and palm readers. It’s a way to make the other person feel like you understand them, and what they’re going through, without them telling you. In effect, you are “reading them” without any prior knowledge.
The trick with Cold Reads is that the “observations” you’re making apply to virtually anyone. But there are psychological reasons why they work so effectively. First, human beings are self-centered, and we generally accept claims about ourselves that reflect how we WISH to be.
(Say to a person, “I can tell you’re a giving, generous person, and your friends admire this about you,” and of course they want to agree with you! Even if it’s not exactly true.)
Also, people are vain. We want to be seen as unique. Even though Cold Reads are usually vague generalizations — which would apply to your sister, just as they would to some hottie you meet at a nightclub — we want to agree with the person who skillfully “reads” us, and we’ll believe they have unusual powers of perception.
So forget about asking women the generic “job interview” questions. (“So what’s your name,” “where are you from,” etc.) Get ORIGINAL with your conversation game in order to engage her attention and impress her as a thoughtful, perceptive person.
If I’m in a club, talking to some babe who’s acting a bit hard to get, I’ll use a Cold Read:
“Y’know, Andrea, I get the sense that a lot of guys get the wrong idea when they first meet you. They think you’re stand-offish and a bit cold. But you’re actually a lot more sensitive, and funny, than people realize.”
Another example: “I get the sense it takes you a while to trust people, because you’ve been hurt before by someone who was really close to you. But the people that do earn your trust, you’re always there for them.”
Or, “I can tell that you’re someone who usually plays it safe and doesn’t take chances, but sometimes you’ve regretted it because you missed out on an opportunity. But then other times, you’re spontaneous and adventurous, and you DO take chances…and that’s when you’ve had some of the best times of your life.”
If she agrees with my “read” (and honestly, I’ve never had a woman totally disagree), I’ll follow up by telling her that I can relate, because I’m the same way. This builds a bond between me and her. In order to solidify the bond, I’ll tell a quick story — one that illustrates how I’m the same type of person.
(If you’ve got five Cold Reads ready to use, you should also have five short stories to illustrate how you embody those same qualities.)
Here’s another great one: “I can tell something has been weighing on your mind. You’re on the verge of making an important decision in your life, aren’t you.”
Pretty much all of us, at any given time, are contemplating a big decision (or one that is big to us, at least). Regardless, she’ll be surprised and impressed that you knew that about her. She’ll volunteer more information about herself — and now you’re engaged in a deep, compelling conversation instead of trying to fill awkward silences.
Much of what a cold reader does is simply repeating back what the subject has said. If she affirms that she’s on the verge of making a big decision, you should nod wisely and say, “Yes, that’s right, and you’re really having a hard time with it.”
Act as if you already KNEW what she was going to say! (Palm readers and psychics always do this.)
Some other Cold Reads that are vague yet seem “profound”:
“I can tell you have a strong need for others to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself.”
“You’ve got a hidden talent, or a passion, that most people don’t know about, and you want to pursue it — but something is holding you back.”
“At times, you’re really social and outgoing. But other times, you’re reserved and introverted.”
Once you add Cold Reads to your conversations with women, you’ll get a feel for which ones work best. This is just one example of an original, thought-provoking conversational tactic. The Mack Tactics program (which bundles together both of our best-selling books, along with audio courses, videos, and numerous bonuses), contains over 101 tactics and techniques for taking your game to a new level.
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Talk to you soon –
Your Wingman,
Dean Cortez
