How Do Ugly Guys Attract Hot Women?
by Joseph Matthews
One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my students is their idea of not being attractive enough to attract women.
There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as:
Some guys think they’re too old.
They could be too fat.
They could be too short.
They could be too ugly.
Because of this, these men feel they are helpless when it comes to getting the kind of woman they desire.
However, it is not true.
I want to take a moment and dispel a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.
Myth #1 – You have to be good looking to get women.
Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true.
Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness.
What’s the difference?
The difference is, you may not escape your looks, but you do control your presentation of what looks you do have by the way you groom and wear your hair as well as how you smell and the clothes you wear, and so forth.
Presentations of these types of features play a role in looking good.
Any man can be attractive when he controls his appearance.
Myth #2 – Women Think Just As Men Do
It’s natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.
For instance – If you’ve ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it. But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there.
Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.
When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied. You judge a woman based on how she looks, right? You’re able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?
By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.
This is incorrect.
Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to say they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.
Women find attraction by how a man makes them feel, more so than how he may physically appear. This explains their attraction to social status and confidence. Men who make them laugh, are good at what they do attract women. Physical looks has very little to do with whether a woman is attracted to a man.
Myth #3 – Women Notice Men’s Insecurities
Since we know our own selves, much better than anyone in the world ever will, we easily find and pay attention to our every single shortcoming, such as our receding hairline, weak chin, and our big ears and nose and so on.
No matter what it is, we see it!
Since we see it very plainly, we merely assume everyone else can too. Nevertheless, many individuals are not observant at all, unless they search for and issue to analyze about you. If you have insecurities, as we all do most likely they wont even care, since we all focus so highly of our own.
A lot of guys try and dismiss their insecurities by calling attention to it, as if to try and “diffuse” whatever it is they feel is ugly about them. But all this does is draw the woman’s attention to this insecurity, and only at that point do people notice it.
Keep in mind that insecurities and anxiety are completely unattractive.
It’s important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.
Myth #4 – Good Looking Men Have It Made
That women instinctively generate towards good looking men is one of the most misleading myths out there.
Physical attractiveness may initially assist, however ultimately, good looking men suffer from the same types of problems as other men, while managing their own types of struggles with women they find attractive.
Attraction is the art of magnifying the emotional connection that a woman feels for you, when you are around, this connection will only occur when you are around her, therefore to feel those feelings she will want you to be around her.
If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.
However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure – she WILL become attracted to him eventually.
Others want to be around you when you make them feel good; this is one of the basics of attraction.
You need to learn how to interact with women, since you do not have to be a good looking man to make women feel good.
But the second aspect to this equation is SEXUAL attraction.
This is the ability to turn a woman on, as well as making her feel good while you are around them.
This aspect naturally leads to seduction.
When you begin to lead a woman down the path of sexual attraction, even if you don’t look like Brad Pitt, she’s going to begin to see you in a whole new light – despite any of the shortcomings you may think you have.
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