Can Approaching Women Be Easy?
by Joseph Matthews
The single most important skill every man should have is knowing how to approach women, because if you don’t know how to do this, you’re going to be at a serious disadvantage when it comes to meeting your dream girl…
The way you approach a girl can make or break the rest of your pickup. Here are some tips for approaching women that will help ensure your success!
We’ve all had situations where we approached a girl with we thought was a smooth line, but she immediately rejected us before we could even open our mouths.
Know this – getting shot down has little to do with what you were going to say or what your intentions were. It’s all about how you go about actually approaching your target. It’s important to do this right the first time, because it’s hard to recover when you make a mistake right off the bat.
It is vitally important to make sure when approaching women, that you do so in a NON-TREATENING way and that you don’t telegraph your interest in the woman you’re approaching too early.
This is about by-passing a girl’s defenses and flying in “under the radar.”
Understand: Most women have trained themselves to just REJECT men outright when they sense they are being picked up on.
Most men don’t realize how annoying it can be for women to constantly be approached by guys who run the gamut from big time loser to big time creep. Because of this, women just don’t want to deal with yet “another pick-up attempt.”
But despite all this, the girl WILL be receptive to you if you know how to approach her in the RIGHT WAY.
So what’s the right way to approach a woman?
First – YOU MUST ACT FAST.
If you hesitate and let the opportunity pass you by, you’re never going to experience success. Giving yourself time to talk yourself out of approaching a girl will never get you anywhere, so it’s important you act quickly and JUST DO IT.
Another tip – know what to say BEFORE you approach a woman! Meeting women becomes so much easier when you don’t have to waste time thinking of what to say to her to start a conversation.
Having a good “pick up line” memorized for situations like these is always a good idea.
But don’t confuse the term “pick up line” with sleazy saying like “Nice shoes, let’s have sex!” The goal here is to be NON-THREATENING, remember?
The best lines usually engage the girl in an innocent conversation. You can do so by asking her opinion on something and then following that up with more questions.
An important tip you should be aware of is to always approach a woman at an angle instead of charging towards her like you’re going to war! When you approach at an angle, it’s much less confrontational and you’re going to subconsciously put the woman more at ease than if you approached her head-on.
Remember: great pick ups can only happen when the girl is comfortable with you. That’s why it’s so important for YOU to feel comfortable when you’re talking to girls!
If you’re not comfortable approaching women, the best way to overcome it is to go out there and start approaching women right away! After all, practice makes perfect, right?
The sad fact is, you’re not going to get good at approaching women if all you do is sit around reading about it and studying it like a test. If you want to get good and have success, you actually have to go out and DO IT so you can build your experience level. (The good news – it gets easier the more you do it!)
Don’t be afraid of getting rejected when you do this. Look at it as a game and distance yourself from the outcome. You’re not trying to get a date or get her into bed, your only goal is to talk to her and strike up a conversation. If you do that, you win!
That’s all!
Make it a game by seeing how many girls you can talk to in one day, and then try and beat your score.
The last thing you want to remember is always use a “time constraint” when approaching a woman. This is very easy to do – just tell her right off the bat that you’re not going to be long because you have to get back to what you were doing.
You want to do this because if she feels this approach is just a “momentary” distraction, and you’re not trying to “impose” yourself on her, she’ll be more willing to engage you in your approach.
If the initial approach goes well and the conversation continues, she will eventually forget you said you can only talk for a “minute” and you can talk as long as you want. The whole point is just to get your “foot in the door.”
The dating game is a numbers game. The more women you’re able to meet, the greater your chances at finding a great girlfriend, and possibly even a future wife.
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